How To Make A Relationship Last

How To Keep Romance Alive In Your Relationship

If ever you come across a common question in your interior monologue of "what do I do to make it work," just follow some simple rules to keep your love alive. It is really not as hard as it may seem at first. Keep in ind that your actions, although unintentional, can reflect on your relationship. If you've been together for years or even weeks, you must remember how much you put into it. Do you kiss often? Do you hold their hand? Do you talk about issues that are too touchy? Always keep a mental note of what has been going on. Of course, this also feeds into the personal habits of the two in the relationship. Are you more of the smooth talker? Are you the suave one? Are you the smooth operator? Are you more of the submissive one who likes or prefers to be swept of your feet? these are important questions to ask yourself toward the beginning of the relationship or when you may feel that some of the romance may possibly be fading.
If you've been together for a short while but things are moving rather slowly due to shyness or reluctance, you may want to initiate the romance. If initiation is what is called for, a few good things to do are surprise them with flowers and a card, humorous or romantic in nature. You may also want to consider going for a nice intimate walk on the beach. If you live nowhere near a beach, you may want to find a nice park and sit at a bench and sip on Champagne while sharing details about your past or your hopes and dreams. If that isn't your style, or you know for a fact that your partner would not enjoy it, then try a nice quiet evening at home and a candle lit dinner for two followed by a movie. At one point or another, you may feel uncomfortable with such a gesture, but that's what relationships are about, give and take. you sometimes have to step outside the box and outside your comfy little world to make someone you love happy. Once you see that the outcome of your gesture is successful, more than likely you will get used to it and seeing your partner happy and impressed with you will leave you not caring that it isn't your usual action. It will grow on you fast and sure enough, making that special someone in your life will be your purpose in life.
Maybe you've been in a relationship for years. That is much easier to handle. All you have to do is try something new. Something fresh and unknown, yet open for the try. Since you've known each other for years, you know what they will enjoy or not. Just leave yourself open to the infinite possibilities the universe has to offer. Maybe you are trying to rekindle an old flame. That can be tricky. Most of the time, people break up by mistake, not knowing that they were better off together than apart. This can go either way, first, you must communicate. Ask each other why you broke up or wanted to in the first place. Then, share your thoughts on those answers. See if there is any hope of salvaging the love you once felt for each other. If there is, make sure you have the right approach in mind. The way to know if you do, is to keep in mind what will make your partner happy, comfortable and connected to the ideal. One of the most influential keys to any relationship, is communication. The give and take. If you know that your giving more than your taking, there is a problem. All you have to do is talk about it together. If you know that you are taking more than you are giving, there is a problem, just talk about it together and not with your friends first. That is a problem that most people miss.
If you have a problem with fixing an issue in your relationship, you need to find a way to fix it with your other half of the relationship, not your friends. Your friends are not in your relationship... or, they shouldn't be, otherwise it isn't a relationship, it's an orgy. At any rate, make sure that everything communication wise is equal. Doesn't have to be perfect, just honest, mature, responsible and open. No secrets. Secrets ultimately screw up more relationships than any other source. Be open and honest about how you're feeling and don't try to down play anything your feeling and definitely don't try to hide it. The truth will set you free. Romantic cards, either written or bought, flowers, sweets, jewelry, a homemade gift, all these things can go a long way, as long as you play your cards right. Don't be afraid to try something new. If you're nervous about it, be nervous together and not apart. If you're happy, be happy together and not apart. That is another vital part of making a relationship work, sharing. Share your feelings, your hopes, your goals, your dreams, your accomplishments, your failures, you families, your friends, your food, anything but tooth brushes, that's not good. Just don't be afraid to surprise your partner with something that will physically last a moment but the memory will last a lifetime, like a strong passionate kiss in the rain, a vacation to the island, a visit to a new restaurant, a night club, a movie, a theme park. Just make very sure that the feelings are mutual and positive. More relationships last that way.

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