How to cure a broken heart

January 8,

How to cure a broken heart? Have you ever left your heart shattered, to the extent that you have sworn never to fall in love in what remains of life?

This kind of experience we have lived it all, and who have not, sooner or later they will. How can we recover?

I has happened or will happen. No matter if nature gave you great physical beauty, intelligence or certain social position, we regret to say that no one is spared from having a lack of love, and when that happens, you feel terrible, you fall into a sea of ​​tears, think that life worthless and the world think you are coming.

In the initial stage, as the "blues" is at its highest point, you might be thinking that you can never recover and have decided you'll never fall in love. Maybe for you it is not no consolation, but you're not alone: ​​every day, many people join the "club of broken hearts" because of "broken heart".
To make matters worse, it seems that all the grounders of disaffection had been written for you . Even so horrible song I was not born to love, Juan Gabriel, can become your anthem. However, it believes that the disappointment in love, over time, will become a living again, which believe me learn a lot.

How long does the pain?
It depends on several factors, but the first and most important is your self-esteem. Note that the road to recovery will take more time between lower your self-esteem, whereas when it is high, the "blues" is more than soon .

Of course, in any case, the best antidote is the time . Perhaps this sounds trite and is something that everyone says, but it's the same with a wound that you get, for example, on one hand. Their healing depends on the intensity of the lesion and not closed in the blink of an eye, it is necessary to pass a certain period to regenerate cells and tissues and heal skin. The same applies to the wounds of the soul.

And if you think you do not replace, you'll make it clear! Continuing with the example of the wound in the hand, restores the skin and no longer feel pain, it is likely that you have left a scar, but it just strengthens the injured area and lets you experience life.
According to Maria Marín, Puerto Rican expert negotiation skills, motivation, personal growth, recovery also depends on what it was that you broke my heart, coping with loss and how quickly you tend to recover from painful experiences. She believes that mend a broken heart can cost you a few days, weeks or months, and in pathological cases (related to illness), to several years.

Other factors that the expert believes that contribute to emotional distress following a breakup, are:
• The relationship comes to an end without you have prepared. 
•I fell in love with someone who does not feel the same for you. 
• Discover your partner "by putting the horn." Such experiences are described as a feeling of deep sadness, bitterness , emptiness and rage. In response, many make the mistake of seeking refuge in alcohol or drugs, and there are those who self-injure or attempt to harm others.

By performing the above, erroneously thought to mitigate the pain, but this is only of seeking temporary relief. Those who resort to such methods are not facing your pain, but mask it, and consequently, the suffering is prolonged and added other problems.

Recovery
We know that at this time or would like to forget everything your brain function as the hard drive of a computer, which could delete the files that cause you pain. But this is not possible, Maria Marin recommended that to strengthen your self-esteem and "patch" your heart you can implement these tips :

• Never try to take refuge in alcohol, drugs or other vices to numb the pain, as this will worsen your situation, your punishment will join the "hangover" and you will feel worse trampled and abandoned. • Write a letter to your "ex", but on no account was sent. It expresses your disappointment, resentment and anger. While you can write angry, state your decision to forgive and then burn it. With this, you will see before your eyes closed this chapter of your life. • Instead of walking with disheveled appearance for your sadness, dress up. There is something magical when you do, and you'll feel much better. In turn, experts recommend that psychology during the match that you're living for the loss of a loved one seeks to:

• The first few days crying all you want, lock yourself in your room to kick, grab almohadazos your stuffed animals and, if necessary, scream, vent all the pain inside you. When finished, you will feel great relief. • Share the pain with your best friend or someone you trust, because when you feel empathy or affinity will help to comfort you to. • Although not want to leave home , try to distract you. Go for coffee with a friend, read a book in the park, visit a museum or recreational walking down the plaza shopping . But do not lock up.

Share your feelings. Yes, we know that people will not understand you at all and try to cheer you up with catch phrases like "get over" or "I'll meet someone else." Do not take this wrong, then maybe it's the only way they know how to help , but surely others will understand you better. The important thing is to externalize and "do not swallow it," because it is proven that every time he talks freeing you go slowly, until the moment he felt accounts without the choking lump in your throat and tears to some.
Take care. Having broken heart can be very stressful, so do not let it interfere with your lifestyle. Sleep eight hours a day, follow a balanced diet, play sports and recreational activity to register such as painting, visual arts, chess ... in short, you name it and, above all, that you like.
Think how good you are. First, keep in mind that even if you have a broken heart, you're a whole person, which is very valuable. Reflect and make a list of all your intellectual qualities, spiritual, physical and social, you will be surprised to read later, you realize you have much more than they imagined.
Kick leisure. Stay doing nothing may seem like the best friend in these situations, but be careful, because leisure is not good company. In those moments when you're done your activities and a plan has not come out with your buddies, takes time .You can redecorate your room or overburden, doing gardening work, help your mom clean the cupboards or check whether the drugs in the kit not expired, there is always outstanding at home and you can lend a hand. Of course, this does not mean you should not think about what happened, reflect on what has happened is part of the healing process, but must also focus your attention on other things.

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